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Reflect - Importance Of Existance

"heyy, i was jz wondering why are we so important to everybody that know us, around us? can you give me so suggestion? i am going to write an reflection on it' thx alot. " - Glor

this is overdue work again. sorry, had been complicated. but this issue never slip off my mind as i promised.

this is a really DEEP topic... but i'm going to just scratch the surface.

actually, i don't really think we are "so important" to "everybody that knows us, around us". to some extend, yes, we may need each other to accomplish things that not one person alone can finish. but everyday, someone dies, and the world keeps moving on, not only that, it's progressing and advancing exponentially.

Are we really important? I guess not. At least not until we make ourselves important.

i'm going to say something that may be quite disturbing and appear rude and egoistic this very moment, please be composed... "I don't need friends, if you think you are my friend, I don't need you at all".

talk about "everybody that knows us, around us" or in other words, anyone close, true friends should be quite close. even that, i believe everyone of us don't need friends. almost everyone doesn't need anyone, then that makes almost everyone not important to anyone.

not just friends, family also the same. even within the same family, we dun really need each other. for these 2 years in the Army, i'm only home once a week and i spend less than 24 hours at home. my family still lived on.

couples should also be the same. seriously, i've told my partner that i don't need her. and she understands my point of view. we can be independant of each other but still remains loving.

when there is no NEED, there is no importance to talk about. and why are we still together? because we simply WANT to be together, because we think and believe we can be better off being together.

and yes. i'm hearing you say "BUT babies NEED people to take care of them!!, haha!! your argument's flawed!!!". yes i agree, but do you need a baby? think about those who don't marry or don't have babies... they survived.

"so what has it got to do with babies needing others!?!"

aha.. that's the whole point of the argument. because of human wants and desires, there creates this misleading feeling of importance.

once upon a time, she has a cell, he has a cell. the cells we happy where they were. one day, cell meets cell not by their will, and a thing called baby appears. baby is here not because he needed to, not even because he wanted to, but he and she wanted to. because he and she wants, he and she has to bear responsibility and love and take care of baby, who, has no choice, but to need them.

when you have a choice, you can choose, then there is no need, only wants. when there is no need, there is no importance.

IF the cells had a choice, the baby would be able to take care of itself.

PS: i know i know, still got handicapped people... these belong to another chapter, but classified together with babies, under the class of "The Unwilling". That's also why i used "almost everyone doesn't need anyone". remember, i'm just scratching the surface.

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